A Typical Day in the Blogosphere

Snark-loving radfem blogger: BDSM is “painfully silly rape-based patriarchy-reenactment boinking.” Any kinky man is “some asshole who gets off on rape fantasies” and “here’s another tip: Dump him!”

Defensive BDSMer: Fuck you! There’s nothing wrong with my sex life, I personally find BDSM empower(fuliz)ing!

Snark-loving radfem blogger: you silly person and your “hackneyed crap”. You think that because you have a personal experience of something, it should be automatically exempt from criticism? “Practicing BDSM without examining your choices is like having Stockholm Syndrome”.

Even more defensive BDSMer: But I have examined it – a lot more than you have (what with the whole ‘personal experience’ thing). And it’s not necessarily any more or less ‘patriarchal’ than any other sort of sex.

Suddenly philosophic radfem blogger: Ah of course, when did I ever deny that? Due to large-scale societal factors, all sexual interactions participate in patriarchal dynamics to some degree. No person escapes complicity, any more than you can avoid participating in capitalism or environmental degradation. Normal heterosexuality is no different.

Confused BDSMer: Oh. Ok…so why do you have to be so snarky about BDSM?

Exasperated radfem blogger: You’re just being over-sensitive. Can’t you take a joke? Why are BDSMers always so defensive?

Fights on the internet? Predictable? Whatever next!

3 Responses to “A Typical Day in the Blogosphere”

  1. Lindsay Says:

    I wondered if you were going to blog about this; you don’t usually blog about sex, but I have managed to pick up from your commenting elsewhere that you are kinky, and it’s got to be annoying to see your kink come in for such a disproportionate amount of radical-feminist bashing, when really all the (quite legitimate) problems radical feminists see in it are equally present in all heterosexual sex, and in quite a bit of lesbian sex as well.

  2. Alderson Warm-Fork Says:

    I wouldn’t mind too much if I was impressed with the insight and intellectual rigour displayed. I’ve tried to intervene in these sorts of discussions pushing for a more actually systematic analysis, but to little avail. I do like BitchyJones though, as a more specific critique of femdom.

  3. SnowdropExplodes Says:

    I long ago opted for the Barney Frank approach to that sort of radfem “debate”:

    “Ma’am, trying to have a conversation with you would be like trying to argue with a dining room table. I have no interest in doing it.”

    Honestly, as a very kinky person indeed, I think that response is about all the anti-BDSM radfem talking points are worthy of.


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