I was recently browsing ‘Face Book’ and was reminded in a very obvious way that patriarchy is everywhere.
See, there’s this thing on facebook for ‘fans’ – there are pages set up for various artists or bands or whatever, and people can register as ‘a fan of’ them. And of course, sometimes people make other things into fan-able items. Hence I noticed that facebook was informing me that:
“2 of your friends have become fans of I love sex!”
Bemused, I clicked to see who had joined. It was typical facebook fare, people posting with bad grammar and long discussion threads with titles like “Funnyest SEx Story!” and “What’s ur favorite position and why!!!?” And there were several pages of pictures, mainly of people who were, in somebody’s judgement, “sexy”. Some of them were cute, lovey-dovey things, like shown to the right.
Then I noticed, on the first page of photos, this:
If we can stop laughing at the hilarity of the idea of symbolising the male and female genitals as a screw and a nut, respectively, we might note that this picture conspicuously depicts, um, rape. The guy is chasing the woman; the woman is running away. He is happy (indeed, drooling with anticipation), and she is not at all happy. She doesn’t want to have sex – that’s why she’s running away. He doesn’t care – that why he’s chasing her.
So here, in the midst of a group dedicated to “I love sex”, is an image of rape. And how had people responded? Well, the comments were:
“someones gonna get screwed”
“Creative isnt it ????”
Two people had clicked the box for “like it”.
So apparently, no-one batted an eyelid. Nobody said “no, we love sex, not rape – they’re very different”. This isn’t a kinky porn website for people to indulge a specific interest in power-exchange or pain play. This was just a random group where people who “loved sex” had got together. And in order to convey that they “loved sex”, this group, comprising both men and women, had put up a picture of rape and laughed at it.
Ha! Lol! Good one! It’s a picture of rape! We like that, because we love sex! Sex is rape! Rape is sex!